The difference between anger and competitiveness in sports
While you certainly can’t get far in athletics without a healthy passion for the game, sometimes the line between performance-enhancing enthusiasm and inappropriate anger becomes blurred. In recent posts, we’ve talked about a few professional players – from soccer to baseball – who have had to face consequences for their rage-driven outbursts.
How can you tell whether your frustration over an incomplete pass or tackle is indicative of a greater anger management issue or just a sign of your dedication?
Dr. Mitch Abrams, a psychologist who specializes in clinical, sport and forensic consulting, touched on this issue in his book, “Anger Management in Sport.” According to Dr. Abrams, it often comes down to instrumental aggression versus reactive aggression.
“Instrumental aggression is goal-directed aggression in which harm to another is not the primary goal, although it can be a secondary result of the action,” wrote Abrams. “Reactive aggression, by comparison, is behavior that has as its primary and sometimes solitary goal to do harm to someone,” and is “usually in response to a perceived injustice.”
Think about all the times you’ve ever gotten angry on the field. Have you ever lashed out at a teammate or opposing player because you felt they’d wronged you? Or do you use that aggression and adrenaline as fuel for your performance? It’s ok to get worked up over the course of a game, but how you release that energy makes all the difference.
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