100 Amazing Free Anger Management Tips From Charlotte, NC to the World

Carlos Todd PhD LCMHC Updated On June 15, 2022

1. Exercise regularity to help induce positive feelings
2. Read a book
3. Practice deep breathing
4. Speak with a trusted friend
5. Use positive by self-talk
6. HALT! Determine if you irritable because you are hungry, lonely, tired etc.
7. Take a long bubble bath
8. Have sex with another willing participant
9. Take a walk
10. Talk about the issue
11. Have a good cry
12. Write down the pros and cons of dealing with the situation in the way you are considering
13. Walk away NOW
14. Go to a 24-hour establishment to clear your head.
15. Remove yourself from the situation
16. Go shopping
17. Go out to dinner with friends
18. Paint your nails
19. Work on a project or hobby
20. Spend time with someone special
21. Do something special for someone else and keep it to yourself
22. Use paint to create how you feel on paper
23. Clean your home
24. Mow your lawn
25. Journal about the situation
26. Listen to your favorite song/s
27. Take a long drive through a very scenic area
28. Go sit by a body of water and calm down
29. Talk about what you are angry about
30. Identify other emotions that you are truly feeling
31. Ask yourself what is the real reason you are angry
32. Go to the spa
33. Seek professional help
34. Learn to laugh
35. Watch a comedy
36. Dance
37. Go to a nightclub and have fun
38. Evaluate all of your current relationships
39. Evaluate how people in your life handled anger when you were growing up
40. Find out what are appropriate and inappropriate ways to express anger
41. Play your favorite sport
42. Forgive the person you are angry at
43. Practice self-talk to calm down
44. Replay in your head the positive way to deal with the situation that’s creating the anger
45. Prepare one of your favorite meals
46. Talk on the phone with someone to help you calm down
47. Compose a story regarding the situation and develop two endings one that discusses what happens if you follow thru with your anger and one that explains what happens when you express your anger appropriately
48. Find a place that is special to only you and imagine being there
49. Smile, the more you smile, the more difficult it is to stay angry
50. Have a massage
51. Scream as loud as you can, then regroup
52. Prayer
53. Live your dreams (get unstuck)
54. Count to ten
55. Anger is a secondary emotions—always find out what is driving your anger
56. Be always aware of your emotional state
57. Check your perception of the situation
58. Angry thinking creates anger. Think anger free thoughts to remain anger free
59. Anger is a normal emotion-embrace it assuming that your anger is not hurting others
60. Never follow another driver in anger
61. Never listen to your angry self-talk
62. Be aware of your emotional state
63. Take breaks
64. Avoid fatigue
65. Take responsibility for your own actions
66. Avoid the tendency to be always right
67. Go for a long drive
68. Go for a long walk
69. Reduce stress
70. Lower your expectations
71. Mediate
72. Walk away— repeated because this very important but hard to do.
73. Avoid excessive use of alcohol
74. Don’t be a follower. Following another person in the heat of an argument is a means of trying to control the situation and WILL create greater conflict.
75. Talk out your problems
76. Be prepared for life’s surprises
77. Learn to laugh at yourself
78. Go to anger management classes
79. Visit www.laugh.org
80. Visit masteringanger.com
81. Improve your time management
82. Avoid people that tend to increase your irritability
83. Learn to communicate your needs
84. Avoid passive-aggressive behavior
85. Improve money management
86. You never have the right to hit someone—Never
87. Get adequate sleep
88. Behave at sporting events the same way you want your children to behave
89. Stay clear of angry people
90. Recognize that what you value or believe others may not
91. Don’t procrastinate
92. Be organized
93. Don’t assume that because you said it other will do it—you are not the center of the universe
94. Know your pet peeves
95. Be open to the opinions of others
96. Avoid excessive overtime
97. Take time for yourself
98. Compromise
99. Remember that your needs are not always the most important
100. Visit www.masteringconflict.com

by Carlos Todd, Ph.D., LPC

Dr. Carlos Todd maintains a private coaching, training, consulting, and counseling practice in Charlotte, North Carolina, and specializes in anger management, domestic violence, and conflict management. Learn more at www.carlostodd.com or www.masteringconflict.com

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Carlos Todd PhD LCMHC

Dr. Carlos Todd PhD LCMHC specializes in anger management, family conflict resolution, marital and premarital conflict resolution. His extensive knowledge in the field of anger management may enable you to use his tested methods to deal with your anger issues.