Does my husband need anger management?

When you love someone, it can be difficult to admit that they have a problem, whether it’s alcoholism or a serious medical issue. Rather than accept that your spouse may be endangering themselves or others, it is human nature to make excuses for his behavior, or for physical signs that something is wrong. A problem with anger management can be even harder to identify – and easier to rationalize. However, this is a serious issue that can take a severe toll on your marriage, and may lead your husband to commit a criminal act if provoked.

Although anger is a completely normal and, indeed, essential emotion, it can quickly become destructive.

According to the American Psychology Association, most psychological exams that measure this emotion evaluate three main factors: “the intensity of angry feelings, how prone to anger you are and how well you handle it.”

Now, think of your husband’s behavior. How often does he seem to become enraged, and what do his outbursts look like? Does it seem like the slightest disagreement can lead to a full-scale argument? If you have difficulty remember specific instances, try keeping a journal and recording notable incidents of anger and aggression.

Last year, Yahoo! Voices compiled a list of “detrimental behaviors” that may indicate an anger management problem. If your husband consistently resorts to these actions, it may signify that he needs help with his emotions.

  • Damaging physical property
  • Prolonged emotional shutdown, such as silent treatment
  • Resorting to addictive substances
  • Shouting
  • Verbal abuse
  • Violence.

While it may be a difficult subject to bring up, speaking to your husband about online anger management courses may lead to a dramatic transformation in the way he handles his emotions, and could have a substantial impact on your marriage and his life in general. Our online anger management courses are specifically designed to work with any schedule, so your husband can learn at his own pace.

Carlos Todd PhD LCMHC

Dr. Carlos Todd PhD LCMHC specializes in anger management, family conflict resolution, marital and premarital conflict resolution. His extensive knowledge in the field of anger management may enable you to use his tested methods to deal with your anger issues.


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