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Does my husband need anger management?
When you love someone, it can be difficult to admit that they have a problem, whether it’s alcoholism or a serious medical issue. Rather than accept that your spouse may be endangering themselves or others, it is human nature to make excuses for his behavior, or for physical signs that something is wrong. A problem with anger management can be even harder to identify – and easier to rationalize. However, this is a serious issue that can take a severe toll on your marriage, and may lead your husband to commit a criminal act if provoked.
Although anger is a completely normal and, indeed, essential emotion, it can quickly become destructive.
According to the American Psychology Association, most psychological exams that measure this emotion evaluate three main factors: “the intensity of angry feelings, how prone to anger you are and how well you handle it.”
Now, think of your husband’s behavior. How often does he seem to become enraged, and what do his outbursts look like? Does it seem like the slightest disagreement can lead to a full-scale argument? If you have difficulty remember specific instances, try keeping a journal and recording notable incidents of anger and aggression.
Last year, Yahoo! Voices compiled a list of “detrimental behaviors” that may indicate an anger management problem. If your husband consistently resorts to these actions, it may signify that he needs help with his emotions.
- Damaging physical property
- Prolonged emotional shutdown, such as silent treatment
- Resorting to addictive substances
- Shouting
- Verbal abuse
- Violence.
While it may be a difficult subject to bring up, speaking to your husband about online anger management courses may lead to a dramatic transformation in the way he handles his emotions, and could have a substantial impact on your marriage and his life in general. Our online anger management courses are specifically designed to work with any schedule, so your husband can learn at his own pace.
Dr. Carlos Todd, PhD, LCMHC is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor, nationally recognized anger management and conflict resolution specialist, and founder of MasteringAnger.com and Conflict Coaching and Consulting Inc. With over 20 years of clinical experience, Dr. Todd has developed evidence‑based anger management programs used by individuals, couples, corporations, law enforcement agencies, and healthcare organizations across the United States. He holds a PhD with a specialization in conflict management intervention and is certified in anger management. His proprietary workbook and course curriculum have helped thousands of adults build lasting emotional regulation skills. MasteringAnger.com has been in continuous operation since 2009, offering court‑accepted, clinician‑designed online anger management courses ranging from 4 to 52 hours.
